Becoming a first-time dad is one of my life’s most incredible and overwhelming experiences. But along with the joy came a mental load I never saw coming—sleepless nights, shifting priorities, identity changes, and a creeping sense of isolation. And as someone who’s had his share of struggles with alcohol and loneliness, it hit harder than expected.
If you’re feeling the emotional rollercoaster of new fatherhood, this guide can help you know what to expect.
That’s why Men’s Mental Health Month, recognised every June, means more to me now than ever before. It’s a time to shine a light on the quiet battles so many of us face and open up real conversations. In this post, I want to share my story, the importance of this month, and how you can support yourself or a man you love.
What Is Men’s Mental Health Month?
Men’s Mental Health Month is part of National Men’s Health Month, observed every June. While the focus spans all aspects of men’s health, there’s a growing emphasis on the mental side—and for good reason.
Mental illness doesn’t discriminate, but men often suffer in silence. From substance abuse to suicide prevention, this month aims to break the stigma and provide tools for better mental health. It’s not the same as Movember in November, which also raises awareness about men’s mental health, but June is the official time to put this conversation front and centre.
The Silent Struggles – Mental Health Problems Men Face
Society trains men to “tough it out” or “man up”, making it harder to talk about what’s really going on. The truth? Many men face serious mental health struggles, including depression, anxiety, social isolation, and alcohol or drug abuse.
I found myself using alcohol to cope with stress, especially during those first few months of juggling new fatherhood with my full-time job. I’d tell myself it was just for the weekend, but it became a crutch for the emotional overload I couldn’t express.
These are common battles. According to the CDC, men are less likely to seek help and more likely to die by suicide. That has to change, and awareness is the first step.
Balancing work and family life is hard—this guide to paternity leave might give you some helpful perspective.
My Journey – From Isolation to Connection
When my son was born, my whole world shifted. I felt joy, yes, but also deep isolation. Suddenly, my old support systems disappeared. Friendships faded. My routine collapsed. Drinking became a default way to unwind, even if it made me feel worse later. But slowly, I started finding small ways to look after my mental health.
Getting outside with my wife and baby boy for even a short walk helped reset my mood. I started journaling (here are some men’s journals to choose from), reading books on fatherhood, and cutting back on alcohol to just small amounts on the weekends.
If you’re struggling, you’re not alone. These small acts can lead to big changes. Products like noise-canceling headphones, a fitness tracker, or a simple guided meditation app (like Headspace or Calm) can make a real difference.
If you’re in a similar spot, here are some tips for building a support system and leading your family with confidence.
How to Support Men’s Mental Health – Tips for Dads & Families
Here are some things that helped me and might help you too:
- Talk to someone: Whether it’s a friend or a mental health professional, don’t bottle it up.
- Therapy is not weakness: It’s strength. Online services like BetterHelp or Talkspace make it easier than ever.
- Self-care isn’t selfish: Make time to recharge.
- Celebrate the wins: Even if it’s just making it through a tough day.
Ways to celebrate Men’s Mental Health Month:
- Host a BBQ or coffee meetup with other dads.
- Start a journal challenge. (Try one of these journals)
- Take the family on a nature day—fresh air really helps.
- Support mental health-focused charities or wear awareness gear.
Why It Feels Ignored – & Why That Has to Change
Let’s be real, men’s mental health often feels overlooked. We’re expected to keep it together, to be the rock. But rocks crack under pressure, too. The cultural stigma around mental health is changing, slowly, but we need more voices sharing real stories.
That’s why I started opening up here on AlphaDadLife.com. It’s not easy. But if one other dad feels seen and supported, it’s worth it.
Conclusion
Men’s Mental Health Month is more than a calendar event. It’s a reminder that we matter too. That our struggles are real. That asking for help is powerful.
If you’re a dad like me, just trying to do your best, know that you’re not alone. Share your story in the comments below. Take small steps. Be kind to yourself.
And remember: you don’t have to have it all figured out to be a great father. Just keep showing up for your family and yourself.
FAQs
Is there a mental health month for men?
Yes. June is recognized as Men’s Mental Health Month, raising awareness of the unique mental health challenges men face.
Is men’s health month June or November?
June is National Men’s Health Month, which includes mental health. November, known for Movember, also highlights men’s mental health along with cancer awareness.
Why is men’s mental health month ignored?
Stigma, outdated stereotypes, and a lack of awareness contribute to its neglect. But change is happening, one conversation at a time.
How to celebrate men’s mental health month?
Check in with yourself and others. Go to therapy. Start journaling. Support mental health orgs. Even posting something on social media can make a difference.
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